What can the rest of the world learn from Chinese people?
Neman Ashraf, Police constable
I didn’t know anything about him.
Except that he’s Chinese, he sat beside me right across the aisle, all calm and quiet, minding his own business. We were going to Lahore, it was a five hours drive. I want to say that I liked him, there was something about him that just felt right. He was a good man. A part of me wished to interact with him but I didn’t… just for the sake of his space and peace of mind.
Two hours passed and the steward announced of a short stop at the rest area.
This is when he looked at me and politely asked “for how long the stay would be here?”
I said, 15 minutes.
At the rest area, I got out of the bus and stretched my legs.
It was quite a place actually, there were restaurants, bakeries, coffee shops.
So then I noticed the Chinese guy coming out of McDonald’s, he walked towards bus with quite a handful actually, wielding two big ice creams cones, burger and a drink.
Instead of going inside the Bus, he stopped before the driver and steward who were standing right in front of the bus and presented them the ice creams with a gentle smile and leaned his head while at it. Both of them paused in awe for a second, hesitated but then accepted the treats with a smile and thanks. He then went inside the bus.
And here I was, looking at this scene.
It amazed me, how thoughtful and kind of him really!
No this wasn’t a show off.
It was a built in attitude, a dogma. I could sense that right there.
Though I like to think I am a kind person in general, I toot my horn of empathy here and there, but this gesture of him just told me that I’m not even half of him when it comes to decency, generosity and courtesy.
No, I have never done that. More pathetically, I have never even thought of it.
And to add a little insult to the injury, I have never seen any one else doing that!
My Goodness, this one Chinese Guy just outclassed me and anyone that I know of.
No wonder, they’re progressing way better than us in every aspect of life.
So to answer the question, we “the Pakistanis” can definitely learn a thing or two about being more lenient, empathetic and kind from the Chinese people.
Sunil Kumar S
I lived for a while in Sharjah (UAE), which has a eclectic mix of Asian (Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Filipino, Chinese, Arab) and African nationalities all living in close proximity.
In front of my apartment building there was a huge vacant plot of land which was used as a car park, it was unpaved and so it was dusty but as the other option was paid parking many people used this plot to park their cars, locally its called ‘Kachcha parking’. At least 150 - 200 cars used to park there.
When I moved in there I tried parking there once but as the approach to this plot is very rough with jagged rocks I decided not to risk it and opted for a paid parking slot near my apt building.
The next day was a Friday (weekly holiday here) I had gone out for a jog and as I was returning I noticed a Chinese neighbour of mine head out with a shovel and a bag of what looked like cement. He started digging away at all the rough rock that cluttered the entrance of the car park and started smoothening a broken kerb stone that looked something like this:
在我的公寓前有一个大空的土地，被人们当做停车场，因为地面没有铺砖，坑坑洼洼，所以尘土飞扬。但因为其他地方都要付费停车，所以很多人把车停在这里，当地人称之为“Kachcha停车场”。过去常有至少150 - 200辆车停在那里。
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This was giving grief to a lot of people parking there as the access was jagged like this but he decided to do something about it.
No wonder China is the Super power it is. I don't know if he was an exception or all the Chinese have the civic sense that he had, but somehow I was not surprised that a Chinese guy decided to take matters in his own hands and do a job clearly meant for the civic authorities.
Francois Ouellette, Professor at Chengdu University (2018-present)
This is a reply to R. Jensen’s reply.
Is this a joke?
Are you aware that the Chinese had invented printing already during the Tang dynasty, and that “by the time Marco Polo arrived in China”, printed books were common?
Are you aware that paper money was used in China “by the time that Marco Polo arrived”? Printed paper money, each bill with an individual serial number and special features making it hard to counterfeit. That they even tried to introduce it in Persia, unsuccessfully?
Are you aware that there were much discussion when paper money was introduced about whether the state should hold equal reserves in gold or silver, echoing similar discussions in the western world in the 20th century?
Do you know of Su Dongpo, the famous go nment official, poet, cook, who lived in the Song dynasty? How he saved the West lake in Hangzhou by having it dredged to build the causeway that is still there to this day? How his poems can bring you to tears?
Do you know of the water management in Dujiangyan, Sichuan, built more than 2000 years ago, and that is still working to this day?
I have lived in China for four years now. Not as an “expat” in some protected compound in Shanghai. Living with real people. I bike 8 km to work every day. I buy my food at the nearby wet market. With my girlfriend, I’ve been to hundreds of social events, with her friends, former classmates, former colleagues, etc.
I have witnessed more acts of generosity and unselfish kindness in four years here than in my own country in 55 years. There are just too many examples, I wouldn’t know where to start.
Now you see these people, the old grandmas dancing in the streets at night. They have a smile on their face. When I see them, I always have to remind myself of where they come from.
I was born and raised in a rich country. I never had to suffer what they did. Whatever small difficulties I had in life are nothing.
And yet they never complain, and resolutely look forward. They are the most resilient people I know.
Craig Weiler, Master Opinionator
How to build high rise apartment buildings. Seriously, the Chinese do this better than almost anyone in the world. Hong Kong is the world’s most vertical city.
One Chinese company built a 57 story apartment building in 2 weeks using pre-fabricated parts. (And no, this wasn’t a structurally defective building.)
While some of these have had problems related to rushed construction, those problems are generally finish work, not structure or design.
The Chinese are absolute masters of building high rises that function well, provide the maximum light and air circulation, they are oriented the right direction and generally give people the best living space possible under the circumstances.
If you’re going to live in a high rise, Chinese designed is the way to go.
Edit: There are a lot of comments about how it sucks to live in high rises and how ugly they are. I’m sure it’s not as nice as a suburban home with a two car garage and a yard in the front and back.
But it’s way better than having a huge homeless problem like we do in California, or having a massive slum made up of scrap metal. China is housing damned near everybody and that is no small feat in a country with a quarter of the world’s population.
Give China some credit here for solving one of the most difficult social problems a society can face. It might not be pretty, but it sure as shit beats the alternatives.
Peter Kelly, Currently living and working in China
I live in China now, and I can say it always puts a smile on my face when I see old Chinese communities hanging out at local parks. I took these photos myself a few months ago (forgive my poor photography):
Old Chinese folks get together for mahjong, square dancing, jam sessions, tai chi, and calligraphy. I took a video of like a hundred of them waltzing in unison but I can't seem to post it.
It's nice. It's heartwarming.
Back in the West we have this stereotype that after you get old and retire, you sit around in an old folks home, play bingo, and wait for your kids to call. I'm sure it's a bit exaggerated, but the standard retired life back home is nothing compared to the retired life here.
Full disclaimer, before you paint me as some sinophile I'd like to point out that I'm by no means a China-worshipper; in fact in general I don't much care for Chinese culture and manners/lack thereof. Hell, some of the other answers here are either greatly exaggerated or blatantly untrue (“Chinese are hardworking and take great pride in their work” PFFFFFFFFTTTTTT. Please. Maybe true with labourers and blue-collar workers, but any Chinese in an office/service setting will do the bare minimum, every time). Even still, despite all their shortcomings, you can't deny the rustic charm you feel when meeting some old Chinese mountain folk.
(Lovely old couple I met at the peak of Mt Moganshan)
Muhammad Zaman, works at The United Kingdom
Hard work, putting practicality before luxury, willing to help each other (something those of us of South Asian ancestry should learn), polite, willing to educate and improve themselves.
When my parents visited China a few years ago, they observed the folks to be very polite and helpful. My parents noticed many of them learning English too. By contrast, how many people here in the UK bother to learn another language, even a European one, and how many would try at least some rudimentary Chinese to better communicate with Chinese tourists and citizens of a new superpower?
Mark Bishop, Owner of FastBuyHosting.com for over 11 years.
We can learn so much! Things like they are human just as much as you are. I know for a fact that they love and immensely care for family and work so very hard their entire lives. They truly are decent people just trying to survive like everyone else.
So, how do I know considering that I’m not Chinese? Well, because I married a Chinese woman (my first marriage) and we had a beautiful son who’s 1/2 Chinese. He’s a wonderful person and almost finished with his university studies in California.
My son speaks fluent English but also Cantonese and some Mandarin. He was born and raised in the states like many of his cousins. He has a genuinely wonderful Chinese personality with a very loving Chinese family who cares for him. Something that many of you might not know, but a Chinese family who has a son will treat that son like a king for his entire life.
And over the years along with my son, I too was immersed into a Chinese culture as Chinese were around us every day. And everywhere you looked in Southern California was something Chinese. We could literally walk out our door and down the street to a huge Chinese supermarket and then right next door a Jack In The Box. My Son had the best of both worlds. Being American and having a Chinese world mixed in! And whatever misconceptions I had about Chinese, my son fixed that fast.
I can’t say enough good things about most Chinese. They are devoted to family and they work so very hard in life to provide for their loved ones. The Chinese students I’ve known study so very hard as well.